whoever finds this
success
So those of you who follow my blog know about Matt Mullin. Here is what I wrote a few months ago, just after he died.
“Matt signed all his emails and letters with live well, laugh often, love much. It was more than a closing, more than just a motto. It was how he lived. Honestly, I don't even know where to begin this post, I already know I will not do Matt justice. All I really know, is that he came into my life for a reason-- and luckily, I figured that out the moment I met him, not the moment he died. Matt used to say, "lose the morning, lose the day". He made the most of every day-- and truthfully, I'm not sure he would have any regrets about his life...How many of us could say that? I, am certainly not one of them, yet.
In so many ways, Matt reminded me of Ben, my brother. He was funny, he was genuine, he was engaging. He reminded me of someone YOU would want to be friends with. You'd want him in your life forever, and you'd probably realize that, like me, within minutes of meeting him. Losing him, would feel like the world has lost someone, not just you. And it has. I also know that through Matt's loss...the world has gained. I think for a lot of us-- it takes losing someone, like Matt, who lived every day as fully as one could-- to realize, that THAT is what life is about. It’s not the small things (or maybe it is, because some small things, unlike others, DO matter). But not the smalls stuff. Don't sweat the small stuff. Enjoy the little things, live for today, because it really is, the only thing we'll ever have. And those of us lucky enough to have had Matt in our lives, know that we have one heck of a lead to follow.”
There isn’t a day that goes by when I don’t think about Matt and how he lived his life. He embodied “live well, laugh often, love much”. I have been wondering where Matt got that quote from, obviously it meant a lot to him, and now means a lot to those who knew him. So, I googled it, and this poem is what I found. It stunned me. It’s right on…as if it was written about Matt. And in away, I’m sure it was. It’s about all the Matts of the worlds—the people who live their lives to the very fullest, and who leave a lasting impression on all who have come into contact with them. The title of the poem is Success.
Success
He has achieved success
who has lived well,
laughed often, and loved much;
who has enjoyed the trust of
pure women,
the respect of intelligent men and
the love of little children;
who has filled his niche and accomplished his task;
who has left the world better than he found it
whether by an improved poppy,
a perfect poem or a rescued soul;
who has never lacked appreciation of Earth's beauty
or failed to express it;
who has always looked for the best in others and
given them the best he had;
whose life was an inspiration;
whose memory a benediction.
--1904 Bessie Anderson Stanley
Erin & Jeff



Jeff and Erin got married on a gorgeous summer day in June. They were, in a word, adorable. They had this way about them where they would fold into eachother so casually and easily, quickly forgetting I was there (helloo, guys, I'm still here!!) which made for some very fun photo taking. Their families were sweet and clearly adored those two, I really enjoyed getting to know them all and catching their heartfelt expressions.
They opted for the 'first glance' before the ceremony, and before you go all traditional on me, it is SO great. She snuck up behind him and when he turned his smile was as big as they get. They enjoyed this moment with family in the distance and a few clicks of my shutter, up close and personal. It also allowed us to get all the group shots before their ceremony so they could enjoy more of their reception. LOVED it!
The Easton Events team pulled together a visual feast that blew me away. When they said mango ceiling drapes my head probably cocked to the side like a curious dog, but that's why I am not the wedding planner, because holy smokes did it ever WORK! The warm glow lit the room beautifully and one of the highlights of my night was hovering near the entrance of the tent to hear all the oohs and ahhhs.
If you want to see Erin and Jeff's slideshow, just click HERE.
same same but different
“Everything in life is connected somehow. You may have to dig deep to find it but its there. Everything is the same even though its different. Somehow everything connects back with your life. The faces in certain places may be different, but the situation is the same. Irony is a hidden factor that creeps around us in life, letting its presence felt only after it has left. Picture back to a year ago and the situation you were in. Look at how things are different yet somehow everything it still in someway cognate. Everything connects together to form the balance of life, to maintain structure. Change is and always will be inevitable, but everything is relative, and all the moments and times in your life will come back around again, you just might find yourself on the other side of the coin. Things are always changing, as fast as everything stays the same.” ...Author Unknown
good morning
gentle reminder
Francoise & Ed




and then there were three...
My mom always jokes about wanting to write a book, “How I lost 60 pounds in 6 minutes”. Its true, she did. My friend, Kelly, could be a co-author. She, too, is a proud mother of triplets. THREE. It’s nuts. I visited Kelly and her husband, Hunter, a few weeks ago, and was blown away with how amazing they are with their three new babies. Here is a picture that Jen Fariello recently took of them. Carter, Brody and Morgan. And as you can see from the picture, she dominates the boys!
lull
live this day well
- Believe in your heart that something wonderful is about to happen.
- Love your life.
- Believe in your own powers and your own potential and in your own innate goodness.
- Wake every morning with the awe of just being alive.
- Discover each day the magnificent awesome beauty in the world.
- Explore and embrace life in yourself and in everyone you see each day.
- Reach within to find your own specialness.
- Amaze yourself and rouse those around you to the potential of each new day.
- Don't be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect.
- This is the essence of your humanity.
- Let those who love you help you.
- Trust enough to be able to take.
- Look with hope to the horizon of today for today is all we truly have.
- Live this day well.
- Let a little sun out as well as in.
- Create your own rainbows.
- Be open to all your possibilities - All possibilities and Miracles.
- Always believe in Miracles.
layers
live everything
-Rainer Maria Rilke
never return
Yesterday, hundreds of friends and family sat on the 24th street beach in Avalon to celebrate and memorialize Matt's life and his impact on others. His best buddy, Patrick, ordered over two hundred Quit Your Job shirts from the Island Company to hand out, as a reminder of Matt's mantra. Patrick shared this email with us-- an email from Spencer Antle, the founder of the company who created the shirts. Matt, easily, could have written this email. It's along the same lines as a converstaion I had with Matt over his shirt, walking around an island off the coast of Thailand. Spencer's letter is below...read on...
Patrick,
Let me know that you got the shirts when they arrive and that all is accounted for. I hope we were helpful and I hope that the memorial goes well.
The thought of all those people wearing the shirts at such a situation is staggering to us here. For something I wrote to have been part of someone's life like that is heartfelt for me. It was meant to make people think about their lives and to get out there and live. After hearing the story, it's clear that was how Matty was living his life. To have the shirt associated with his passing is difficult for me to comprehend somehow. I've always had a rule when I attend funerals or memorials that I try and find something about the person who's passed and incorporate it into my daily life. I didn't know him but somehow this has reaffirmed what that shirt was supposed to mean. That life is short and we can waste no time not enjoying it to its fullest. I wanted to explain a bit about the shirt and what it means to me since I am sure it will become a topic of conversation since so many people will be wearing it as a testament to what Matty valued in his life. The meaning of the shirt isn't as base as people usually think.
QUIT YOUR JOB: It isnt exactly about just quitting your job. It's about getting unstuck. If you're not happy, what are you waiting for? Quit following the path that is unfulfilled and consider doing something else. The time is Now. For most of us, this is the hardest part of changing your life. Making that first step. You have two choices in life: the path of least resistance, or the path you can’t resist. I say, “why resist?”. Quit. Go. Now.
BUY A TICKET: the world is a big place and there's a million dreams we've all had, most of which will go unrealized unfortunately. Buying a ticket means finding a destination where you think improvement can be made and pointing yourself in that direction. The great thing about travel is when we get somewhere new our lives usually appear different to us when we look back into them from the outside. I've always thought that as a society we don't spend enough time vacationing. We spend 50 weeks a year working for the goal of taking 2 weeks off. There’s an obvious problem with this equation. But even one day off, if lived correctly, can be a major return on a small investment. The ticket doesn’t cost that much in the scope of life.
GET A TAN: It’s not about the tan. It's really about letting yourself go, to really learn to relax and become a "local" in your new environment. I've found through extensive island travels that its takes a considerable amount of time to become "unstuck" and become a local. Our day-to-day jobs, efforts, trials and tribulations build up a lot of scar tissue and we put up a lot of barriers in dealing with them. This makes seeing the good things hard sometimes. It takes nearly a month to truly decompress. Another month to become yourself again (and by yourself I mean that person who was once full of ideals and dreams that has been slowly silenced by the day to day monotony that seems to change us and put us off course). And again it takes another month just to become indoctrinated in becoming a “local” in whatever new environment you are in. The locals know the roads, the hideaways, the places that make you smile. They are freer than us. So yeah, I guess I'm saying that to truly "get a tan", and not just a "tourist tan", you need to be somewhere 3 months. We've seen them on vacation - those dark-skinned, ex-patriated locals that make us jealous. Their tans are different than ours. Well so are their minds too.
FALL IN LOVE. I think this is a testament to becoming yourself again. It doesn't necessarily mean "finally finding that perfect person that only exists in faraway fantasy locales", but by returning to the state of mind that allows you to be open to falling in love. In love with where you are, who you are, and in love with the potential of your future. This love is what allows great things to happen again. And it usually isn’t dependent on anyone other than ourselves to achieve.
NEVER RETURN. Well it's the best ending to being reborn. Don't go back to the past, keep moving forward, life can be as great as we want to make it, so never move backward. The past makes up who we are. No matter how great, or how bad some events have shaped us, it's what we're left with today that we have to work with. This is where true growth happens in our life. By moving forward, building upon the past, seeking greatness in the future. Never returning.
I'm sure that Matty would want there to be a celebration for what he did and accomplished, if even for his short time, I’m sure he was proud of it. Most true travelers, wanderers and seekers seem to share this view on Life and Death. To truly walk into the future with open eyes and an idealistic heart, you have to have a shallow fear of death. If you don’t have this strength you can’t get very close to The Edge, and unfortunately The Edge is where most living takes place, where most of life’s rewards are found. Everyone knows the timeless saying that nothing great came without risks. And we all know Life is rarely found sitting on the couch. People who share an affinity for this shirt seem to be of this Life Warrior spirit. It’s just a tee shirt at the end of the day but its really weird the people it attracts.
I tell my family that if anything ever happens to me to celebrate what I did, not the loss of what I didn't do. I've had great opportunities, seen great things, and done more in some months that people get to do their whole lives. And I'd be upset if anyone spent even one minute mourning my life. I'd rather it be talked, rejoiced and laughed about and I’d be upset that I couldn’t attend my own memorial. It’d be the only time all my friends who knew me got together at one time. What a shame it’d be if all those great people that shared one singular person didn’t have a blast at this once-in-a-lifetime event. Matty's life deserves the same.
I would've liked to have met Matty -- another warrior from the front lines of life and its experiences.... He sounds pretty cool.
Please pass on Island Company's and my thoughts and wishes to all his family and friends.
Kindest thoughts,
Spencer Antle
Creative Director
Island Company
top of the day to you
A few years ago i started making a list of my highs. You know, the best part of your day. The high. It is mostly a mental list-- although i've written some of them down, shared some of them through stories and letters, most of my highs are stored in my head (read: some forgotten, some remembered). Sometimes my high is as simple as receiving a smile from a stranger, or a note from my sister. As simple as witnessing someone walking down the street, alone, with a smile on their face. Or finally being able to do a yoga pose i've been working on for months. Or waking up to a hot pot of coffee. Or getting to my car on a snowy day and finding that someone has brushed it off, just because. Or opening the mailbox to find good old fashioned snail mail from a college friend. or my mom. or my grandfather. or you. My highs are consistently the little things. The sincerity of the world around me and the people within it. Seeing someone flip a penny on the ground from tails to heads...for someone else to find, heads up. The cashier at the grocery store who looks me in the eye and says "have a good day", and means it. Sometimes, my high, is as simple as waking up, and realizing there is a lot ahead. today. and tomorrow.
live well, laugh often, love much

mmm
drew and gille

We couldn't have asked for a more beautiful weekend to celebrate my good friends' Drew and Gillie's wedding. Every little thing about their wedding day was personal, thoughtful and pure. Drew's father, Jay, with anecdotes and grace, officiated the ceremony. Drew and Gillie's dog, Solstice, was there to join them as they first walked down the aisle as husband and wife. Their friends, myself included, formed an arch around the couple as they made their vows: not standing on one side, but on both. For the first time, I stood on the other (and more personal) side of a wedding I planned.
april showers
blue shout

the now

USS New York

I am sure a lot of you have already seen this.... talk about reuse and recycle... and talk about proud to be an American. We melted down the twin towers and have created new ones. Here is the article...
Steel from the World Trade Center was melted down in a foundry in Amite, LA to cast the ship's bow section. When it was poured into the molds on Sept 9, 2003, 'those big rough steelworkers treated it with total reverence,' recalled Navy Capt. Kevin Wensing, who was there. 'It was a spiritual moment for everybody there.' Junior Chavers, foundry operations manager, said that when the trade center steel first arrived, he touched it with his hand and the 'hair on my neck stood up..' 'It had a big meaning to it for all of us,' he said. 'They knocked us down. They can't keep us down. We're going to be back.' The ship's motto? 'Never Forget'
today or tomorrow
Prings
A good friend of mine, John Pringle, will be playing in Charlottesville Thursday night. If you haven't heard him--he local, he's funny, he's got great stories, oh, and he is extremely talented. And if you don't like his stuff... Gravity has great beer :) I'd like to meet a person who doesn't love Busted in Stockholm. Just come. happy monday

Matt Dances Around the World
Matt says about his travels: "In February of 2003, Matt quit his job in Brisbane, Australia and used the money he'd saved to wander around Asia until it ran out.
A few months into his trip, a travel buddy gave Matt an idea. They were standing around taking pictures in Hanoi, and his friend said "Hey, why don't you stand over there and do that dance. I'll record it." He was referring to a particular dance Matt does. It's actually the only dance Matt does. He does it badly. Anyway, this turned out to be a very good idea.
A couple years later, someone found the video online and passed it to someone else, who passed it to someone else, and so on. Now Matt is quasi-famous as "That guy who dances on the internet. No, not that guy. The other one. No, not him either. I'll send you the link. It's funny."
The response to the first video brought Matt to the attention of the nice people at Stride gum. They asked Matt if he'd be interested in taking another trip around the world to make a new video. Matt asked if they'd be paying for it. They said yes. Matt thought this sounded like another very good idea.
In 2006, Matt took a 6 month trip through 39 countries on all 7 continents. In that time, he danced a great deal."
amazing....
the razor's edge

black sheep

one of my good friends made me the most incredible mix cd, which has been playing on a loop since he gave it to me monday... Martin Sexton sings Black Sheep in track 4. it's giving skinny love a rival. i love it.










